As the first step ensure your environment and surroundings are all in tune with your good path. Your wife, children, friends, acquaintances should all be aligned to your path. Ensure that only good words fall in your ears at all times.
Your intent is good but outcome is bad. To save yourself from mistakes you are engaging in good deeds.
• **But at all times you are recollecting your bad deeds. You focus on your sins or mistakes and thereby strengthen them. For this reason you end up repeating the mistake. In the fear that you will commit a mistake, you are always thinking about it. By strengthening it you are furthering the mistake. **
The one who think, ‘I may commit this mistake, I may do this sinful deed’ is the one who will commit the sin. The reason is the extreme concentration on the sin.
Devotees who lack the faith that they will get His darshan do not get Swamiji’s darshan. ‘Maybe we won’t get darshan today, how can ordinary persons like us get any darshan’ –the person who thinks thus will not get Swamiji’s darshan due to the strength of the thought. Instead if he thinks- ‘why won’t I get darshan? If not me, who else will get darshan? My mind and my thoughts belong to him. He definitely will give me darshan.’ 100% he gets darshan. Assume that even after all such positive thinking, you did not get darshan, it then leads you towards vairagya. ‘Swamiji after all is always with me. So what if I did not see him? He is with me now’.
Therefore do not lose heart when you commit a sin. Do not focus on it. If you follow this approach, you have scope for improvement. Focus on good things. Keep good company at home as well as with close friends. Be determined that you will go in right direction. Decide mentally that you will not commit mistakes. Then definitely you will be in the right path.
When you begin a task with right intent and it goes wrong, then you will not get the dosha. This is because of the good sankalpa behind. But if you make a mistake wilfully be ready to accept the punishment for the same.
(Q&A Bangalore 11 Nov 2015)